Starting a question with “Why?” often makes people shut down. It sounds like criticism, not curiosity. “How did you decide that?” or“What’s behind that feeling?”creates space for understanding. “Why?” makes people feel cornered.“How?” and “What?” help them feel like you’re in their corner.
When The Holidays Feel Like a Mess
The holidays are a miraculous and messy season. We celebrate the miracle of Christ’s birth right in the middle of the messiness of our world and our lives. Christmas reminds us that there’s no mess too big to bring to the feet of our Messiah.
The Greatest Enemy to Growth
The greatest enemy of growth is comfort. Most of what you want will take more work than you expect. You can’t force growth, but you can create space for it. To get what you really want, you’ll have to push through a lot of what you don’t.
One Secret to Being More Creative
Most people are too busy consuming to create. You’ll never write your symphony if you’re always at someone else’s concert. The secret to creativity is boredom. Put your phone down.Let your mind wander. Breaks bring breakthroughs.
What Most People Misunderstand About Waiting on God
There are times when we’re waiting on God that He’s actually waiting on us. You can pray, plan, and prepare, but at some point, you have to act in faith. Apply for the job.Ask the girl out.Have the hard conversation.Make the apology. Answers don't come before you move-they come as you move.
When Someone You Love Is Going Through a Crisis
When someone you love is walking through a crisis, you don’t have to fix everything—you just have to show up. Sit with them in the waiting room. Bring dinner when they’re too tired to cook. Watch the kids so they can rest. Write a short note to say they’re on your mind, you’re praying for … Continue reading When Someone You Love Is Going Through a Crisis
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